Searching Online For a New BFF?

Making friends as an adultThe way we interact with our friends has always been a topic I find fascinating.  So, when I stumbled onto a blog by Rachel Bertsche, in which she chronicles the search for her new BFF after relocating to Chicago, I was hooked!  Bertsche has also written a book on the same subject, which provides a humorous look at the difficulty of forming close female friendships as an adult – a subject in which I can totally relate!

After having my daughter, I started taking stock of different aspects of my life.  Things that once seemed so important started to look like unnecessary drama in my busy life.  Over the next few years, I reevaluated some of my friendships.  Look, I am no Mary Sunshine, but I realized I had surrounded myself with some pretty negative and unhappy people.  I may be full of snark, but in general, I am happy with life.  All the negativity and cattiness that surrounded me wore me out.  The solution?  I distanced myself from the relationships in my life that no longer worked.

Interestingly, I realized over the years, I had substituted quality relationships for a large quantity of relationships.  I never gave any thought to evaluating how well my friendships were actually working.  My relationships had not been particularly satisfying for some time; I had just been too close to the situation to realize it.  I didn’t have a best girlfriend, you know, that person you want to tell everything.  To be clear, my husband and I are very close.  He is my best friend, but sometimes, you just need a female best friend.  Brunch, shopping, reality TV – my husband will humor me, but only so far!  Plus, it’s not like I can talk to him when I need to vent about the stupid things that my husband does.  For that, I need a female best friend, or an FBF if you will.

Fast forward to a few months ago.  I am reading one of Rachel’s posts, when I come across something interesting in the comments.  One of her readers suggested Rachel check out Girl Friend Circles (GFC), an online site designed to introduce women in the hopes of forming new friendships.  What the hell?!  Is this online dating for friends?
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